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tonyhabibi

posted on Jul 21, 2008 - 01:14 AM

lately ive been in a 4 month spiritual hell ... ive been so dead spiritually . and lately there has been this girl at my church who at times i find attractive , and i find myself motivated to go to church just to have a chance to see her .... i feel like sometimes i do certain things in church just to try to impress her .... its not love ... its lust ... 100 % ... like today she was telling me about some of her problems .. and at times i sympathized . and at times i offered only advice that might make me seem more sensitive and caring to her ...

i used to go to church every saturday and sunday and friday .... normally .... but now , i go more motivated i guess cuz i know ill see her there ... i dont want that ....

and i havent tried to avoid her ... we are just begining to be okay friends ... and she doesnt have that many friends in church .... so me totally detaching from her isnt so good ... maybe i dont know ....i totally am such a wicked , sinful person.. ive never gotten so bad .... honestly ... if you all could pray for me and give me advice ... id really need it ... thanks .

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AMoussa01

posted on Jul 21, 2008 - 03:23 AM

One of the best things to do in your case is to busy yourself with other things. Try to reattach yourself to the church by getting more invovled in the service like deaconship, giving lessons, cleaning, or whatever. Praying and reading the Bible are very important and its good that you do it everyday. Also, getting involved in your job, if you have one! I recommend you speak to your father of confession...he will help a lot!

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geomekhaiel

posted on Jul 21, 2008 - 04:07 AM

Tony,

You know that I typically don't post very often any more but I wanted to reply to this topic and give you a bit of input...

I have (and to some degree still am) experienced the same exact problem; and I even took it to a completely different level than the simple level with which you have dealt with this girl.

From first hand experience, I can honestly say that don't let it get too far because the girl that you are extremely attracted to today might not be as appealing tomorrow.

Just give it time and try to find if you really really like this person and you feel that Christ has lead you to them for a serious relationship or if it is really just lust; as you said before.

Giving it time is really the best advice I have to offer.

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Truth.Seeker

posted on Jul 21, 2008 - 06:56 PM

I think any help you can get on this issue has to be internal. As an administrative manner, your name on this site is your actual name. If she were to randomly Google you, she may find your post. You may want to take it down or ask an admin to take it down.

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lowlyman

posted on Jul 22, 2008 - 12:11 PM

Truth.Seeker makes a very important point. Posting under your real name on matters like these isn't wise.

From Truth.Seeker:I think any help you can get on this issue has to be internal. As an administrative manner, your name on this site is your actual name. If she were to randomly Google you, she may find your post. You may want to take it down or ask an admin to take it down.

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